I always get excited at this time of year. As the new year comes closer, I sense the chance for fresh beginnings, new dreams, growth.
Of course, there’s still a whole month of 2016 left to go! And by rushing to prepare for the new year, I’m shortchanging myself for this year.
A little while ago I shared an image from my journal on Instagram where I talked about how I had this bad habit of getting onto social media first thing in the morning, and how it made me feel crappy for the day ahead.
So many people commented and said they felt the same way. It got me thinking.
What if we set about to be a bit more deliberate with how we spend our time – whether morning, evening, or in between?
And then I thought, one of the most stressful times of year is coming up. If you’re working you might be rushing to get stuff done before the end of the year. If you’re a mum, wife or homemaker you might be stressing to get Christmas things organised – gifts, meals, decorations, whatever. You might be preparing to travel or have family come and stay. Or maybe you find the holidays a lonely and sad time, for whatever reason.
I think a lot of us are tempted to rush through December and get to the new year. But what if we slowed down and really savoured December? Rather than crashing into the new year and attempting to start fresh then, we can step gracefully into 2017 with a nourishing daily routine already in place. We don’t have to wait until January to start feeling good – let’s do it now.
So the idea for Deliberate December was born.
How it works
You don’t have to sign up for anything or pay for anything. Simply, all you have to do is commit to doing something deliberately every day (or most days) in December – in whatever way feels good for you. I’ll provide some simple journaling prompts below to get you thinking about what might feel good for you in December, and then you do it!
If you feel like it, you can share an image each day with the hashtag #mydeliberatedecember. Here’s how my Deliberate December is going to look:
Mornings: Each weekday, before 9am, I’m going to journal first thing and then do timed writing. I may or may not do these things on the weekend – I’m leaving that part open. The main thing is for me to not get straight onto social media, but to start my day deliberately.
Evenings: I also want to end my days with more intention, and I’ve been neglecting some essential pregnancy self-care rituals, so these will be done in the evenings. Before bed on weekdays, I’m going to do some gentle stretching and massage, meditation and reading before bed. Ideally this will take about 30 minutes, with the goal of getting to sleep by 11pm.
That’s it. Pretty straightforward.
Some things you might want to consider for your own Deliberate December practice:
– What time of day do you want to do it? I chose mornings because I’m off work now and am finding myself sort of drifting aimlessly into my days. This isn’t a good feeling. I added in evenings because I think if I go to bed with intention, I’m more likely to wake up with intention. Without the structure of work to guide me, I need to create my own structure.
– What do you want to include? I recommend really thinking about what will make you feel good, not what you think you should include. Some things you might like to consider are:
- Morning pages/journaling
- Exercise – yoga, walking, swimming, etc
- Time outside
- Self care such as taking a bath, applying some lovely body lotion, deep breathing, a lovely cup of tea, etc.
Note: This practice is about the practice, not producing a product. The focus is on what you are doing and how it feels, not what you might be producing. It’s about being deliberate with your days, not producing a collection of paintings or reading a certain number of books. Being present in the process is what is most important.
Tools to help
I’m using a few tools to help me with my Deliberate December practice. These are things that can help keep me accountable and just make the whole process a bit easier. Here’s what I’m using:
- The hashtag #mydeliberatedecember – sharing my progress with others will help to keep me accountable.
- My journal itself is a way of keeping me accountable as I’m forced to confront myself each day – and why I may have chosen to not do my practice!
- The Forest App – I have this as an app on my phone and a Chrome extension. It stops me from opening up other apps/tabs when I’m focused on doing something (like writing) and times my progress. Brilliant!
- 750words.com – this is an online platform that tracks my daily timed writing to ensure I write a minimum of 750 words. This was originally based on the idea of Morning Pages, which are about 750 words long, so could be useful for that.
- Guided meditation – I’m not sure which one I will do yet, but it will be short and easy (5-10 minutes). I’m thinking something from the Insight Timer App.
You could also use things like fitness trackers or timers if your practice includes fitness or exercise, updating Good Reads if your practice includes reading – or just simply share using the hashtag. Make it simple and fun!
What to do when you miss a day
Right now, acknowledge that you will likely miss a day, you will ‘mess up’. This practice is exactly that – a practice. It is not meant to be perfect. It’s meant to be gentle and nourishing. This is not another chance to beat yourself up.
If you miss a day of your Deliberate December, then simply get back to it the next day. No blame, no criticism, no guilt.
Remember, it’s about the process, the practice. Even if you were only practicing every second day you would still feel better than not at all. Be open to not doing it perfectly.
The other thing is that you can change the practice if it’s not working for you. Don’t panic about being locked into doing something. If you get a few days in, or halfway, and it’s not working anymore, then change it! Total freedom to do what works for you.
Prompts to get you thinking about your own Deliberate December Practice
- What is most missing from your life right now?
- What do you need more of?
- What do you want less of?
- How could you nourish and care for yourself more?
- What feels manageable for you to do each day?
- Do you want to focus more on how you start or end your day – or both? Or perhaps the middle?
- Imagine it is the start of 2017 and you’ve spent December more deliberately. What things might have you been doing? How would you feel?
- What tools could you use to help you stay on track?
Comment below and share your ideas for your own Deliberate December practice.
18 thoughts on “Join me for a simple, free, nourishing practice in December”
Jen, thank you so so much for this generous offer!
It resonates so much with me and I will meditate a bit in how I want to do my deliberate December… As I plan a art-journaling based December Daily (mostly without prompts but rather intuitive) I think I might combine the art journaling with the Deliberate December – thank you so much!!
Art journaling daily sounds like a lovely way to do your Deliberate December! You’re welcome Nicole x
Thanks Jen….unlike you who looks forward to the new year with excitement I have always looked towards it with fear of the unknown. I have done this since a child and I am 70 now…what a waste of emotion and adventure but it is so hard to change. With your December challenge I hope to finally turn these feelings around and with the beginning of “my new decade” look forward to what is ahead rather than fearing it. A very hard task but thank you for offering up the tools to at least try.
Hi Suzanne, I get that. And in all honesty, with a baby on the way in January I definitely have some fear and uncertainty mixed in there!! I have a post going up about that soon, actually. I hope that doing a bit of this December practice can help you to look forward to next year. Have you done any work with gratitude? I know when I deliberately focus on all the things I’m grateful for, my perspective changes. Doing something like that each day could be quite powerful.
I love all the things you do. Love this.
Aw, thank you Pam, how sweet. I hope you get something out of it!
Totally recommend the Insight Timer app – it’s fantastic!
Awesome, thanks Pam. I haven’t done much with it yet but I’m excited to try it! Do you have any favourite meditations?
I LOVE this idea and I’m excited to sit down and really think about what I want my deliberate December to be.
Lauren, MindfulWombyn on insta.
So glad to have you join us Lauren! 🙂
Jen, thank you so much for this idea. I’m currently signed off work on long term sick so following your deliberate December prompts will help me get into a positive new routine rather than letting days just slip away.
Thank you! xx
Angela, it’s so easy to let the days slip away, isn’t it?! Sorry to hear you’re off sick Angela, hopefully creating a positive new routine will help you to heal. X
This is perfectly timed – I’ll be joining you! Thanks for all the tips to help us “Be”
Awesome Tamsin, glad to have you on board! X
And just what I need ……… Kinda got lost these last 6 weeks going on social media and getting hooked up into groups etc that hasn’t helped grow me or my business art work art world indeed exactly the opposite.
Let the deliberation begin xxx
Yes I’m the same Jude – find it all too easy to get sucked into social media and not feeling good about it! So glad to have you on board x
Thank you❤. I start 6 am.
Really helps spirit, mind , body.
Great to have you joining us 🙂